Couples

Pre-Marriage and Marriage Counseling
Being happily married for 23 years I suppose I’m a bit biased, but I believe that marriages are worth saving, particularly if there are still children in the home. Marriage provides a place for us to raise our children, gives us a place of belonging and acceptance, it provides for our need of love and intimacy in a way that cannot be match anywhere else, and gives us a place of refuge when needed.

Most couples enter counseling with the complaint of not being able to communicate with each other, and they have all but given up by the time they come to me. There is very little intimacy left and they seem to hurt each other on a daily basis. In most cases they have neglected to take care of the marriage and allowed competing interests to push the marital relationship into the background.

In counseling couples I work to discover the specifics of what each person is doing to hurt the other, and then go to work on developing the communication skills that nurture & encourage each other, develop rapport, intimacy, and begin meeting the needs.